A Sad, Familiar Tale of Procrastination.

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He has always dreamed of pursuing a career in computer hardware engineering. “I want to design my own chipset”, he used to tell his Computer Science teacher in high school. Now, as a junior enrolled at a reputable technical college, he finally has the chance to make his dream a reality. Although he somewhat slacked his way through the two years of general education courses, he always knew he would have to be studious during his junior year when the core engineering classes started.
He wakes up every morning filled with excitement and positive intentions. Studying is actually the first thing that crosses his mind. “I’ve got to get that chapter read”, he tells himself. But first he needs to grab some Starbucks and a muffin. “Okay, now I’m ready.”
He sits down at his dorm room desk and cracks open the book “Modern Computer Hardware Design”. The phone rings. It’s Jane, a good friend he met in his sophomore English class. “Lunch, today? Yeah, I could do that. How’s noon sound? Perfect. See you then.” Before he sits back down to read he remembers that he skipped his workout yesterday. “A quick workout will only take 45 minutes and it will energize my mind and prepare me for a couple hours of diligent studying”, he thinks to himself. He puts on his sneakers, grabs his iPod and heads over to the campus gym.
When he returns from the gym, he takes a shower and is again ready to start reading. Page one: “Welcome to the exciting world of computer hardware design. This book is divided into…” “Ah, crap! I forgot to email my mother those photos I promised her. Heck, it will only take a second.” He quickly opens up his laptop and logs into Gmail. Before he has time to send the email he gets an IM from an old high school buddy, Greg, who he hasn’t spoken to in six months. After a forty-five minute chat session, he fires the email off to his mother and returns to the book.
He glances up at the wall clock and realizes he only has about thirty minutes before he has to leave to meet Jane for lunch. “Jeez, it will be pointless to get into the groove of a focused study session for just thirty measly minutes”, he thinks out loud. He convinces himself that it would be in his best interest to save the reading for after lunch. So logs into Facebook, replies to a few messages from his friends and then heads off to meet Jane.
Once he returns from lunch an hour and a half later, he feels exhausted. The post-meal grogginess is kicking in hard. “All I need is another round of Starbucks and I’ll be ready”, he thinks to himself. He heads out to grab it.
As he sits back down at his desk with his coffee he repeats the word “focus” over and over as a mantra to himself. He cracks the book back open. Page one: “Welcome to the exciting world of computer hardware design. This book is divided into…” But then… His neighbor knocks on his door. “Turn on the Local 6 news channel. The college apartment complex down the street is on fire”, his neighbor says. Again, he puts down the book and then clicks on the television. This should only take a second…
Yeah… right…
Procrastination is a deadly, cyclical virus.
Stop Procrastination 101
Plan, Prioritize and Dedicate Time – Make a bulleted list of the things you need to accomplish, denote the next action you need to take for each bullet point, prioritize based on due dates, and dedicate a window of time for getting each bullet point done. Once you have your plan setup, do NOT deviate from it unless a real emergency occurs.
Disconnect Yourself – Go to the library or another quiet location where nobody can disrupt and distract you. Leave your cell phone and internet connection behind.
Start Early, Finish Early – The gym, along with everything else you’d rather be doing, must wait. Get the important tasks done first thing in the morning when your mind is fresh. Once the weight is lifted, the rest of the day is yours.

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3 Ways We Failed Our Way to Happiness (written by Mark and Angel).

 

3-failure-happinessSuccess is not final, failure is not fatal.
It is the courage to continue that counts.
-Winston Churchill
I. Rejected from Seven Universities
When I was 18, I wanted to be a computer scientist. So I applied to seven U.S. universities known for computer science. MIT, Cal Berkley, Georgia Tech, etc. But I got rejected by all of them.
Soon thereafter, a high school guidance counselor told me to apply to The University of Central Florida in Orlando, which had a rapidly growing computer science and engineering program. Out of desperation, I did. And I got accepted and received a scholarship.
And when I settled on Orlando, the move changed my life.
I met Angel there – my wife and the love of my life. And I met a professor, Dr. Eaglan, who convinced me to switch from the school of computer science to the school of computer engineering, with a strong focus in web design and technical writing – two skills I use today to run the blog you are reading now (a website that makes me happy and financially supports my family ).
If I hadn’t been rejected by those seven computer science schools, neither of these priceless encounters would have taken place.
II. Your Writing is Not Good Enough
While in school, I began to enjoy my technical writing classes so much that I decided to take a few creative writing electives too. I absolutely fell in love with writing inspiring stories and expressing myself in prose.
So I applied for a part-time editorial position at the school newspaper. I sent them five articles I had written along with my application. Two days later I received an email which cordially explained that my writing was not good enough.
That afternoon, I went home with a bruised ego and told Angel what had happened. She hugged me and said, “Regardless of what anyone says, if writing makes you happy, you should keep writing. Because that’s what happy writers do . They write.”
And after a bit more discussion, she added, “I like writing too. We should start our own little writing club and write together.” A few minutes later, Angel and I turned on my computer and registered the domain name marcandangel.com , and our blogging days began.
In other words, if my five articles hadn’t been rejected by the school newspaper, the article you’re reading right now would never have been written.
III. Fired for Doing the Right Thing
After college Angel used her business degree to land a head store manager position at a major retailer. She was in her twenties and she was running a $40,000,000 store all by herself. Although some of the regional executives thought she was too young, she was doing far too well for them to do anything about it.
Until one day in 2009, when one of her floor managers got a DUI on a Friday evening and went to jail. He didn’t have enough money to post a $600 bail, so he called Angel to let her know that he would not be able to make it to work the next day. Angel decided to lend him the $600 he needed. The regional executives found out about this and fired Angel the next morning without a valid explanation.
Suddenly Angel had a lot of free time on her hands. While she looked around for another job, she spent her afternoons marketing our blog. She learned all about social media marketing, and opened accounts for us on Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites – the primary source of traffic to our blog today.
We didn’t know it then, but the traffic was going to grow exponentially over the next three years, and by January 2012 our blog would be making enough money to completely replace Angel’s lost salary, allowing her to work on it full time and get paid for being happily passionate .
If Angel hadn’t been fired, none of this would have happened.
Failures Along the Road to Happiness
As our friend Steve Jobs once said , “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
The truth is, it happens just like that. What seems like the end of the road may just be a cul de sac. It feels like rejection. It feels like failure. But it isn’t.
You simply ran out of road on that route. Time to back up, turn around, and look for a new route to get where you want to go. And as long as you keep smiling and moving forward, the road ahead is going to be far better than you can imagine. Because eventually, through all its twists and turns, it leads to happiness.
So if you’re currently struggling, hang in there. Remember, sometimes the best thing that can possibly happen to you in the long run is not getting exactly what you want right now.

7 Shortcuts You Will Regret Taking in Life.

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“It shouldn’t be easy to be amazing. Then everything would be. It’s the things you fight for and struggle with before earning that have the greatest worth. When something’s difficult to come by, you’ll do that much more to make sure it’s even harder – or impossible – to lose.”
―Sarah Dessen
There is no shortcut to anywhere worth going. There is no substitute for doing the work. Meditate on this every day: “I will do the work.” As Einstein once said, “Genius is 1% talent and 99% effort.” You must run to be a runner. You must write to be a writer. You must actively attend to your relationships if you want them to flourish.
By all means, find ways to be more efficient. But make no mistake that it takes diligent effort to build something worthwhile. There are certainly some success stories out there about people who excelled rather quickly, but you will usually find they had put in years of related work long before anyone was paying attention to their seemingly rapid success. In other words, their current state of achievement is simply all those years of work coming together flawlessly in the present.
The most effective way to handle what must be done is to do it. Put in the required labor. Don’t sell yourself short by taking shortcuts like these:
1. Taking the easiest route possible.
Someday you will look back on your life and realize that everything worthwhile you’ve ever accomplished initially challenged you. And that is as it should be, because big challenges often prepare ordinary people for extraordinary success.
Every struggle arises for a reason – for experience or a lesson. A great journey is never easy, and no dose of adversity along the way is ever a waste of time if you learn and grow from it.
Remember, an arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards, and such is life. When life is pulling you back with difficulties, it means it’s going to eventually launch you forward in a positive direction. So keep focusing, and keep aiming!
2. Settling for the way things are by default.
The decision to settle for mediocrity is a real killer. If you settle for just anything, you’ll never know what you’re truly worthy of. There is ample time for you to be who you want to be. Despite the struggles that you might be facing, never give up on yourself. Don’t just take the easy way out and settle for less than what you know you are capable of.
Realize that it’s not always about trying to fix something that’s broken either. Sometimes it’s about starting over and creating something new. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Sometimes growing stronger means growing apart from old habits, relationships, and situations, and finding something different that truly moves you – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning. That’s what LIVING is all about. Don’t settle. (Angel and I cover this in more detail in the “Self-Love” chapter of
1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently .)
3. Leaving everything to chance.
It’s not what you do every once in a while, but what you dedicate yourself to on a daily basis that makes a difference in the end. Having a plan, even a flawed one at first, is better than no plan at all.
Don’t trap yourself, endlessly, in a state where you are unable to ask for directions,
even though you’re terribly lost , simply because you don’t know your destination. Figure out what you want. When you get real about the true feelings you crave, you end up surprising yourself with an abundance of new opportunities and possibilities.
Bottom line: One day your life will flash before your eyes. Do your best every day to make sure it’s worth watching. Work towards something that brings meaning to your moments.
4. Following the crowd.
Allen Ginsberg once said, “Follow your inner moonlight; don’t hide the madness.” In other words, in this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to be your incredible self.
Never let what other people expect from you dictate what you expect from yourself. Clarity about your true desires is so liberating because you get to stop proving yourself to everyone, including yourself.
We have all been placed on this earth to discover our own way, and we will never be happy if we live someone else’s idea of life. So stop being ashamed of how you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that comes to you, and to follow a path that makes you happy. Don’t compare yourself to others, or get discouraged by the success of others. Follow your intuition, never give up on yourself, and stop expecting others to understand your journey, especially if they have not walked your same path. (Read
The Road Less Traveled .)
5. Putting things off.
Be frank with yourself. The things you say you will deal with later rarely get done. It’s time to get up and make an immediate difference in your life. You know all those things you’ve been meaning to get done for the past month, year, etc.? Pick one right now and start doing it. Get your hands dirty, challenge your mind, and get sweaty if you have to. Break out of your comforting lull and get involved. If you feel crummy, it’ll make you feel better. If you already feel good, it will make you feel great.
Ultimately, you will not be judged by what you say; you will be judged by what you do. Wake up each morning determined, so you can go to bed satisfied. Have the courage and discipline today to do what is needed instead of simply what is convenient. Or as Pablo Picasso once said, “Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.”
6. Ignoring people instead of forgiving them.
Forgetting people who hurt you is your gift to them; forgiving people who hurt you is your gift to yourself. Always forgive others, not because they necessarily deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace of mind. We are all one, so when we forgive others we forgive ourselves, which is the first step in the healing process. Without forgiveness, the potential for true happiness in your life is limited.
In addition, we often tell ourselves that we’re better off without some people in our lives, and while this can be true, you should also build forgiveness into your character. Keep in mind that some relationships will temporarily split, only to come back together twice as strong as before. Forgiveness alone makes this possible. (Read The Mastery of Love .)
7. Cutting too many corners with your important relationships.
It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what hurts even more is to love someone and never find the time to let them know how you feel. There is no greater sadness than holding on to the loving words and deeds you never delivered to those you love.
The people you take for granted today may turn out to be the only ones you need tomorrow. So make plenty of time for those who truly matter . The best gift you can give them is the purity of your full attention. Just be present with them and pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone, you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together.
Afterthoughts
The journey begins when we are born. The destination is death. So the journey is far superior to the destination. Don’t sell yourself short! Make your journey worthwhile every single day, because the distance we each get to travel is a mystery.
Getting where you want to go in life is not about finding a shortcut, it’s about putting in the required time and effort. You have to set goals and fulfill your commitments, even when no one would notice but you, and know in your heart why doing so matters.

Your turn…
What would you add to this post? When have you cut yourself short by trying to take a shortcut in life?

Leave a comment below and share your thoughts with us.

BROKEN WINGS (Life of purpose)

without_love__we_are_birds_with_broken_wings_iii_by_soccerstar57-d58vfstDon’t break a bird’s wings and then tell it to fly.
Don’t break a heart and then tell it to love.
Don’t break a soul and then tell it to be happy.
Don’t see the worst in a person and expect them to see the best in you.
Don’t judge people and expect them to stand by your side.
Don’t play with fire and expect to stay perfectly safe.
Life is about giving and taking. You cannot expect to give bad and receive good. You cannot expect to give hate and receive love.
So if you’re willing to see positive change in your life, you must be willing to be that change itself.

Faithful C. C 👤

Billy Graham ’ s Answers on Abortion. Life of purpose• February 8, 2017.

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Topic:  Abortion
Know that the Lord, he is God!
It is he who made us, and we are his;
we are his people, and the sheep of.           his.pasture.
Psalm 100:3 (ESV)
All throughout the Bible, it’s clear that human life is precious to God. More than ever, we need biblical answers to questions about abortion and the sanctity of life. Here are a few My Answers from Billy Graham.

Q: Why is abortion such a big issue for Christians?

A: Life is sacred, and we must seek to protect all human life.
>> Read the entire answer

Q: I’m single, pregnant, and don’t know what to do.

A: I know it’s common to think of abortion as a simple answer to an inconvenient problem, but it’s a far more serious issue.

>> Read Billy Graham’s entire answer

Q: Would it be wrong for me to pray that my girlfriend will be open to getting an abortion?

A: You’ve probably heard the old saying, “Two wrongs don’t make a right”—and it’s true, especially in this case.
>> Read Billy Graham’s entire answer

Q: Our teenage daughter is pregnant. What advice should we give her?

A: May you and your daughter carefully and prayerfully consider your options.
>> Read Billy Graham’s entire answer

Q: I got an abortion. I can’t forgive myself, and I know God won’t forgive me either.

A: You are wrong when you say God can never forgive you.

> Read Billy Graham’s entire answer

God cares about all lives, including yours. Find peace with Him today.

 

Still your friend,

Faithful C. Chukwubuotam  😁

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Ecclesiastes 12:1–4,7,8,13,14

1] Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them;

[2] While the sun, or the light, or the moon, or the stars, be not darkened, nor the clouds return after the rain:

[3] In the day when the keepers of the house shall tremble, and the strong men shall bow themselves, and the grinders cease because they are few, and those that look out of the windows be darkened,

[4] And the doors shall be shut in the streets, when the sound of the grinding is low, and he shall rise up at the voice of the bird, and all the daughters of music shall be brought low.

[7] Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was: and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it.

[8] Vanity of vanities, saith the preacher; all is vanity.

[13] Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.

[14] For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.

BRIEF WORDS FOR THOUGHT 💭.

Most of the time, we ignore the impulse  beatings of our hearts, we sub-pedal the pricking of our conscience and tend to live life in laxity and unconsciousness of the Life after death.

Life is so short and painful to live as though while we live it seems it never ends, every race has an end, and unto everything time is appointed unto, Time to Live, Time to die, Time to Increase, Time to decrease, Time to be subsist, Time to depart, with nothing did you come into the world, and with nothing shall you leave. What matters most, is our relationship with our maker, He is our hope of glory, he who was before the earth, even the earth and its components are older than man, yet they work according to the plan and pattern God has pre-destined them to.

Then man from ash and dust came to challenge his maker just as Nebuchadnezzar (King of Babylon) did and was turned into an animal, and so many other likes of him.And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.(Genesis 6:3) when God is happy with a man it attracts blessings and unmerited favour, but God’s anger with a man attracts wrath, death, sicknesses, pestilence, and a free way to the Devil.

We are complete in Christ Jesus, the Devil is envious of our place of abode after life, his end is certain and irreversible that’s why he came out to deceive men to gather careless and undecided men as companions to hell.

He came to Kill, to steal and to destroy but Christ Jesus has come so that we may have life and have it more abundantly. Man is made in the image and likeness of God (All men), no one should be despised for we are all he’s and we shall give account of our lives. One of the prerequisite of living a formidable life here on earth is sticking and basically adhering to the jurisdictions and principles of the Bible. A pastor once broke and illustrated the Bible to be an acronym with explanations, which goes thus,

B-basic

I-information

B-bringing

L-Life

E-eternal

We need the Bible to survive, King David the psalmist once said,” thy word is a lamp to my feet, and a light to my path”

We never know what power we have until we believe in the giver and bestower of the power. Even the necromancers believe in the Bible, and you a Christian who claim to oppose agents of darkness doubt the realness and supremacy of the power we have received. This is why when some Christians that don’t know their worth get into a tussle with the devil or his agents, they get flawed and trampled under foot, this is because you don’t believe and you don’t know what you possess, it even shows that you doubt the Truthfulness and sovereignty of God, He said unto you, Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you (Luke 10:19). If only our faith can be as little as mustard seed, we shall say unto a mountain be thou removed and be thou cast into the sea, and it shall be done how much more when we have a full Faith and Trust in God.

Peter walked on water not because he followed Christ Jesus but he walked on water because he Knew that anywhere with Jesus Christ he could safely go.

The centurions servant was healed not because he spoke and laid his problems to Jesus but because he exercised a great measure of faith which Jesus the healer recognized, The Centurion said unto Jesus, I am not worthy that thou shoulder come under my roof, just speak the word and my servant shall be healed and his servant was healed even that same hour. (matter 8:5-11)

When Jesus heard it, he marvelled, and said to them that followed, Verily I say unto you, I have not found so great faith, no, not in Israel.

[11] And I say unto you, That many shall come from the east and west, and shall sit down with Abraham, and Isaac, and Jacob, in the kingdom of heaven.

[12] But the children of the kingdom shall be cast out into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Most Christians don’t value their rights and privileges as sons and daughters of the kingdom of God, they let outsiders take their blessings and they allow the devil to deceive them, just as it is written in the book of Jonah chapter 2 verse 8: They that observe lying vanities forsake their own mercy. Many people give heed to the deceits and whispers of the devil and loose their rewards, liberations and breakthroughs. Some might be so unlucky to loose their crown just because of little pressures,even if they are great trials and tribulations it never lasts and can never be compared to the joy and reward in heaven, We should always comfort our selves with these words of Truth, In Romans 8: 35-39,

35] Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?

[36] As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.

[37] Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

[38] For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

[39] Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

AMEN!!!

To be continued…….

Synopsis by: Faithful C. Chukwubuotam